7 Ways to a Happier in Life
Do you believe that hard work and luck are what you need to succeed in life and be happy?
…I did too until I watched this fascinating video by Mark Williams and it opened my eyes.
You have the power with in you to find the keys to success and happiness...the power of your "personal magnetism"
How to spark your Personal Magnetism...
7 Ways to a Happier in Life
Hard work and luck are both important, but they aren't the only factors that determine how happy you'll be
The power in yourself is what makes things happen around us every day; it's an invisible force field attracting positive experiences like happiness or success as long as we believe deeply enough inside ourselves...
Happiness comes from smiling and being grateful for the journey. It doesn’t come from realizing we no longer need to change, or grow; it's about discovering that YOU CAN CHANGE AND GROW!
Studies have shown happy people accomplish more of their goals in life-- yet unfortunately so many believe what they say (that happiness causes success)
I'll be happier once … is a dangerous statement which sets up people for months/years without allowing themselves feel content anymore
Happiness is an amazing feeling, but it can be hard to pinpoint exactly what makes us happy.
There are four main chemicals in our brain that influence how we experience happiness and each one plays a different role!
1. Dopamine does the work when you enjoy striving for goals
2. Oxytocin brings people together through socializing or bonding experiences like love-making (or at leastI hope so)
3. Serotonin produces good vibes - remember those 90% found primarily inside your gut.
4. Endorphins will help push anyone forward during challenging times because they’re accountable for repairing damaged tissue while fighting off pain
Here are 7 keys to feeling happier in life...
By feeling happier on a daily basis, you’ll in turn find that your productivity will improve AND you’ll achieve more of what you want in your life...
1. Cultivate a Growth-Oriented Mindset
Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University believes there are two main mindsets we can navigate through life with: GROWTH and FIXED.
People who have a fixed mindset believe their abilities and intelligence levels will never change; they tend to be happier when it's easier for them because nothing is ever really successful or good enough in those cases - as if success were predetermined for you before birth (which some would say).
However, people that hold onto this idea about themselves often don't try new things out either until finally being pressured by others' expectations
here are two main mindsets we can navigate through life with, according to Carol Dweck. Those who believe their abilities and intelligence levels will never change find themselves in a Fixed Mindset while those that see potential for growth have what she calls "a Growth Mindset".
People having the former mindset tend not only do less than expected when it comes down time management or goal setting but also end up being far unhappier because they don't think there is anything left after achieving peak performance on any given task - which often leads them back into feeling stuck!
If you want more joy throughout your day-to show yourself some love make sure every morning starts out by asking myself how am I going gear up today?
2. Seeing the Optimists View of Life
Optimists have a sunny view of the world and always see opportunities, while pessimists tend to be more negative and find themselves in bad situations.
The optimists here are more likely to be happy and successful than the pessimist. They also suffer less anxiety, depression or stress as well!
It's not just what happens in your life which determines if you will experience these negative feelings but rather how we interpret those events that really matters for our mental health.
Billy and Sarah both lost their jobs at a magazine publishing company.
Billy took it badly, and while he sent out job applications to 30 companies, he took 3 months before he finally found a replacement job. His new job quickly became highly stressful and he is upset that bad things keep happening to him.
Sarah was upset at losing her job. She had a cry on her husband’s shoulder but woke up the next morning with a new lease on life. She decided that this was going to be an opportunity to make life even better than before.
So she wrote up her new resume, and decided to get picky about the jobs she applied for. She applied for 7 jobs and got an interview with 2 of them.
One of them turned out to be a job that paid higher than what she had previously been on, and was very excited as it involved learning a few things about magazine artwork that she had always wanted to get involved in before.
Sarah is an example of someone with an optimists mindset and Billy is an example of someone with a pessimists mindset. Situations like these happen regularly in people’s lives and optimists tend to navigate them a lot better.
What’s the point of being negative? Sarah is an optimist and Billy tends to be a pessimist. They both have their own perspectives on life, but it's always important not just see what we're negatives about in moments like these- because there could really good things coming out!
When you start looking for those silver linings everywhere (even if they aren't lit yet), then your whole perspective changes; suddenly everything looks brighter--and dare I say even better than before!. It all starts with seeing
We all have moments in our lives when we experience a pessimists mindset. Situations like these happen regularly, and optimists tend to navigate them better than those with negative thoughts patterns do - especially since they're more likely not only see the silver lining but also take time out of each day (or week) for self-care!
The key is looking at what could make this challenging situation "a blessing disguise" as opposed just brushing it off without thinking too much into why things may be difficult right now--and then turning those challenges back around so that you can use them against yourself instead by seeing how strong etc., if needed be).
We all have days when we don't feel like getting out of bed. Days when the world seems dark and trending negative, but if you focus on what’s positive in life-the little things that make it worthwhile for us--you'll start having more great moments going forward!
The optimists here are more likely to be happy and successful than the pessimist. They also suffer less anxiety, depression or stress as well!
It's not just what happens in your life which determines if you will experience these negative feelings but rather how we interpret those events that really matters for our mental health.
3. Enjoy the Journey as much as the Destination
Life is NOT a series of destinations … More time is spent on the journey, than on reaching any goal or dream.
So it’s important to look to gain more satisfaction and pleasure from the work that goes into achieving that success, than the success itself.
In order to do that, you need to enjoy the process that leads to the outcomes you are looking for.
If you want to win a race, you need to find a way to enjoy the training. And to gain satisfaction from that training.
Otherwise too much is hinging on the results of that race and even if you win, that’s a lot of time spent training, where you could have been enjoying it.
If you don’t win, then it’s important you can enjoy looking back at the journey and effort that went in … And say to yourself you did everything you could have done, and that you are happy with yourself for that.
And that’s well worth celebrating.
Happy people tend to realise the value of challenging themselves … Whether or not the success comes at the end is of less significance than how much effort was put in.
If you put more effort in, and enjoy facing great challenges, then it’s inevitable you’ll achieve many great outcomes in life.
And you’ll enjoy more of life in the process.
4. Keep Up Your Social Relationships
“Countless studies have found that social relationships are the best guarantee of heightened well-being and lowered stress, both an antidote for depression and a prescription for high performance.” - Shawn Achor, Author, “The Happiness Advantage”
Harvard University conducted the most extensive study ever on adult development. They tracked the lives of 724 men from 1938, over 75 years.
One of their key findings was that good social relationships are the key factor that matters the most for long-lasting happiness.
“The lesson that came from tens of thousands of pages of that research was that good relationships heek up happier and healthier,” says Dr Robert Waldinger, a psychiatrist and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development.
What’s more, dozens of other studies have been conducted over the years, that have also shown that people who have satisfying relationships are happier and live longer.
So make sure to always make time to prioritize family and friendships.
Be kind to others also, it’s not just about ‘spending time’ with them, though that is certainly a critical factor.
Make sure to help out others who need it, both with your time, and/or your resources.
“A long line of empirical research, including one study of over 2,000 people, has shown that acts of altruism—giving to friends and strangers alike—decrease stress and strongly contribute to enhanced mental health.” - Shawn Achor, Author, The Happiness Advantage.
These secrets can help anyone influence other people to please them and do what they want.
5. Improve Your Nutrition
One of the 4 main ‘happiness hormones’ is Serotonin. And it is estimated that up to 90% of it is produced in the gut.
That’s why what you eat and drink also plays an important role in your overall feelings of happiness in life.
One small study of people with mild-to-moderate anxiety or depression found that taking probiotics for 6 weeks significantly improved their symptoms…
…While another study found that taking probiotics (galactooligosacharides) for 3 weeks, significantly reduces the amount of cortisol in the body (a stress hormone).
One natural way to build up a healthy gut is to decrease sugar and processed food intake, while increasing intake of natural whole foods.
Fermented foods like Sauerkraut are excellent for your gut.
Vegetables and fruit are also good for your gut and help produce more of those microbes that are responsible for Serotonin production.
6. Chaos Leads To Frustration … Create SYSTEMS That Lead To Success
“I value self discipline … But creating systems that make it next to impossible to misbehave is more reliable than self control.” - Tim Ferris, Author, The 4 Hour Work Week.
Most people live their lives as though many of the situations that happen to them are erratic occurrences.
But really, it’s a series of logical and complete systems, some big, some small, that are playing out over and over again …
… And you have the ability to create, edit and nurture these systems, so that you have the life that you want.
Just merely having that realisation that your entire life can be redesigned to be whatever you want it to be, can give you a lasting feeling of additional happiness and clarity about your future.
What you need to do is pay attention to things that you WANT and things that happen that you DON’T WANT.
Then you need to break them down into the systems that need to be in place to cause (or prevent) them from happening.
This applies to all areas of life: Home, work, health, relationships and goal achievement.
Here’s an example…
John’s wife, Felicity, was feeling overwhelmed with all the housework she was doing at home. They have 3 kids and every day the mess kept piling up, and it was causing her stress.
John decided to make a system to help her.
He made a list of things that the kids had to do when they got home from school each day.
If they completed all their ‘jobs’ then they get to have 1 hour of ‘free play’ time before dinner.
If they didn’t do the ‘jobs’ then they not only missed out on the ‘free play’ time, but they got a bit of a lecture about ‘doing their part’ to help out in the family, and how valuable this is to their mom.
Within 2 weeks, the kids were getting their clothes put in the wash, getting their lunchboxes out and cleaned, their homework was being done on autopilot, and they were cleaning up after themselves if they made any snacks…
...Felicity was elated! This little change in the system by which they lived their lives made a big improvement to their overall happiness.
The kids noticed how their Mom was more peppy too, and they felt great at being more self-sufficient.
It was a win-win all around.
This is an example of how a change in the system by which you live your life can make a big impact on your future.
There are many examples, for instance automatically saving 3% of your income, can lead to more vacations… Or always making sure treats in the house are harder to get to than healthy snacks, can lead to healthier eating… etc, etc.
The key is, look at the systems by which you live your life, and work to improve them.
7. Accept What Is … Chase Damn Hard For What ‘Could Be’
According to a study of 5,000 people, by the University of Hetfordshire, self acceptance is one of the most critical factors that affects our happiness …
...But is often the one we practice the least.
Acceptance has two parts to it…
- Accepting what is, and what has happened to us.
- Accepting ourselves and who we are.
The thing is, the past has already happened to us.
So it’s vitally important to cultivate that habit of accepting what has happened to us. Even if it’s unfair.
It’s important to look for any possible silver linings, to learn those lessons, and to form an exciting plan for the future.
It’s also crucial that we love ourselves as we are, and don’t place limits on ‘I’ll love myself when…’
You are already great. You are already a wonderful human being. Don’t wait till you’ve got that pay rise, or you’ve got that perfect relationship, or you’ve lost that stubborn belly fat, before you love yourself …
… Those are goals you may have, but you’ve got to accept what is, love life as it is right now, love yourself as you are right now … AND chase damn hard for what could be.
It’s time to get excited and happy about life as it is.
Love the challenge, love the journey you are on, and focus on cultivating these 7 habits.
They’ll lead to an overall feeling of more happiness in your life.
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